OK-so, I love to read.  My wonderful, thoughtful husband bought me a tablet for Christmas, and so now it has become even easier to read, and less expensive to buy books….dangerous.

I’ve got my nose in a wonderful tome right now.  Actually there are several on the WOW list that have my attention, but this one is at the top of the heap.  It’s called “The Gifts of Imperfection” by Brene` Brown. The Kindle edition is less than $10.   Wanted to share a couple bits of what she writes about loving yourself.  The words kind of assaulted my heart, and have caused massive thinking….

She writes this:  “How much we know and understand ourselves is critically important, but there is something that is even more essential to living a Wholehearted life:  loving ourselves”  …..powerful.

In the next chapter she gives a definition for loving yourself;  “Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness.  It means cultivating the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, no matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough.  It’s going to bed at night thinking, Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave, and worthy of love and belonging.”  WOW.

Words help me sort things out.  Probably one of the reasons I’ve made a commitment to get up in the morning and come here and write…words help me understand, define stuff that is out there somewhere-difficult to grasp, things I need desperately to understand, but find myself disconnected from. What I am reading has put me right in the middle of sort mode…

The purpose of today’s post is not to ponder the idea of Wholehearted Living…we are, all of us, meant to live wholehearted lives.  But today, I want to consider what Brown wrote about within the idea of living wholeheartedly.  What she said about loving yourself.

I don’t know about you, but because of where I come from, and what life has ungraciously poured in my lap, I have spent an above average time sorting myself out, coming to know myself, figuring out the mystery that is me.  I sometimes feel like this is the challenge of a life time….I digress.  Self understanding is priceless, but it would seem, that it’s incomplete, we are incomplete, without having love for ourselves as well.  Self understanding is often easier than self love…understanding is knowledge-from our heads, love is rooted in the heart. It has been well said-“the journey from the head to the heart can be 1000 miles..”

I love how she defines self love. Simple.  No matter what does or does not get done in a given day, I am enough. She uses words like compassion and courage to talk about this.  Having the wonderful courage to be brave, the compassion to love and give grace to ourselves.   I can’t tell you  how many times I have felt like I am not enough-what I give is not enough, that there are more things to do, ideas to explore, art to create, words to write, people to love and invest in, than I can possibly manage. I would suspect I am not the only woman who feels this way from time to time.  How nice it is to be told, that no matter what, I am enough. Need to write this on the bathroom mirror…maybe in red lipstick….

Here’s what’s really powerful; It might need to be written in big letters on a big wall…Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave, and worthy of love and belonging
The truth is, we are all imperfect, vulnerable and sometimes afraid. It’s called being human.  I feel these things every day.  True, yes-but the by far grander truth, the one that reminds me who I am, inspite of myself and my own insecurities,  is that I am brave, and worthy of love and belonging.  So are you.

Life is hard.  Life is good too.  We need to be reminded.  We need to be encouraged.  So today be encouraged today-you are brave my friend.  You are worth loving.  You are worth belonging.  You are worth your own courage and compassion.



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